I have found that simply to make life work you need a holistic approach. Everything working together to form a whole working system. So just having one area or two areas work is insufficient. So where do you start. I believe start with the hardest area first. Why? Well we all like to do what is easier not what is the most challenging. What has us want to start easy? Maybe the fear of failing or something else we cannot see. So consider conquering what you might find most challenging first. It could even be that way with each day. Do your most challenging work first. Last night I flushed out my budget. I had been avoiding it, not wanting to face what the real numbers were. What inspired me to confront it? It was what I coach my clients on “If you can see it you can move it!” Now I have the chance to have that opportunity. However if this seems a little steep, just act, move, get in action. For some people taking an action is big. What could you do to move your life forward.
Through my work over the past few decades I have discovered something very interesting about people in their relationships. I believe that people use their relationships incorrectly. They use them as a place to let off steam and get excitement. Let me say more about that. What if the true nature of relationships was the opportunity to get yourself reenergized and reinvigorated? What if your true excitement came from what you were creating in the world. Some outlet that you love that contributed to making the world a better place. What if people only create relationship drama because they are bored? So maybe being up to enough in life actually makes life more livable? These are important questions to look at. Is my excitement actually displaced? Maybe people who aren’t in relationships are creating family, work and/or friend drama. And maybe all thats missing for people is a real vision and creation of what they would like to leave as their legacy. I found this very enlightening in my journey with people. It has allowed me to begin to live a truly drama free life with lots of excitement in what I am up to and what my life is about.
I invite you to take a good look at your relationships, your work and your life and see what you see. Are you living a created a life or a life given by the excitement of drama that you allow into your life? Its a great thing to examine.
Maybe a drama free life is possible and maybe its more fulfilling!